George Robert Hayman III, who died on December 8, 2022, was born in Albuquerque, New Mexico, in 1949, to George R. Hayman, Jr., and Barbara Adams Hayman. He was an army brat, born to two army brats, and the family moved every year until George was a teenager. He developed his friendly and gregarious nature early, as with each move he worked to meet and befriend children his age as quickly as possible. He was a 1967 graduate of St. James School, an Episcopal boarding school in Hagerstown, Maryland, and was a lifelong supporter of the school. He attended Union College in Schenectady, New York, but did not graduate – he referred to himself as an “old undergrad.” His early adulthood was spent in the Baltimore/Washington area and he moved to New York City in the mid ‘70’s. He was a writer, editor and graphic designer, working initially for a small advertising agency. At St. Bartholomew’s Church he met his future wife, who was about to enter seminary. He took a job as Assistant Verger at Trinity Church Wall Street, and later worked in their communications department. In 1987 his wife was called to St. Alban’s Church in Oakland/Franklin Lakes, and in 1996 to Grace Church in Madison, where she served as rector for twenty years until retirement, at which time they moved to South Orange. At both churches, George contributed time and talent in abundance, singing tenor in their choirs, serving as lay worship leader, and serving on the altar guild, something for which his stint as verger at Trinity had prepared him well. At both churches he served intermittently as newsletter editor and parish administrator during times of staff transition. Prior to retirement, he was for a number of years the parish administrator at Calvary Church in Summit. He was a lay leader in the Diocese of Newark, elected three times as alternate deputy to the (national) General Convention, and serving on the Department of Missions, the Cathedral Chapter, the Christian Education Commission, the Convention Arrangements Committee, and other committees, and was a frequent contributor to the diocesan newspaper, the Voice, and designed and produced the printed programs for many diocesan services and events. He was also active in the Madison community, serving as borough councilman from 2000-2003, the first Democrat elected to that position in many years, as well as doing stints on the planning board, the housing authority, and other administrative committees. He was a twenty-five-year member of Madison Rotary, and, an avid golfer, of Madison Golf Club, where he at one time was club champion and also won the Governor’s Cup and President’s cup, and hit a hole-in-one. He was scheduled to play on October 6, but that was the day the first of two hospitalizations began. A lifelong Yankee fan, the last game he attended was on September 21st. He enjoyed life until his final illness set in.
George is survived by his wife of forty years, the Rev. Lauren Ackland, and by his siblings: brother Richard and wife, Barbara Pollitt; sisters Margaret (Mimi) Demaree, and husband Dave; Elizabeth (Boo) Turner, and husband Brent; by three nephews and two grandnephews and many cousins; and by many, many friends.
His funeral service will take place at Grace Church in Madison on Saturday, May 6 at 11 am, with a reception in Grace Hall to follow. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. James School, 17641 College Road, Hagerstown, Maryland 21740; or Grace Church, 4 Madison Avenue, Madison, NJ 07940.